Sexuality and sexual health
As kids grow up, it’s healthy for them to develop a sense of their sexuality, learn how to express affection and have respectful relationships. Sexuality isn’t just about sexual behaviour; it’s about the way your child feels about their body, and their growing ability to have feelings of intimacy, attraction and affection for others.
Gender identity
Understanding around how people develop an identity around sex and gender is changing. There is growing support for the idea that gender is not about physical characteristics, but about how a person perceives themselves and chooses to express themselves. The community is becoming more accepting of gender diversity, but kids who are exploring and questioning their gender identity may feel anxious, scared or ashamed.
As a carer, you are in a strong position to protect the child or young person in your care at a time when they may be feeling very vulnerable.
Things you can do to support kids who are exploring gender identity
- Let them know nothing has changed in your relationship.
- Tell them you appreciate the courage they are showing to be themselves.
- Respect their right to confidentiality.
- Allow them to decide who they share their feelings with, and when.
- Call them by a different first name is that’s what they want (and update the caseworker so that they can include the name change in the Case Plan).
- Helping them access the information and services they need, in partnership with your caseworker.
Minus 18
Minus 18 is Australia’s largest youth-led organisation for LGBTI youth. They provide online resources and support services, run social events for under-18s, and offer mentoring services.
Thinking about your own reactions
Some carers may find it difficult to accept the new gender identity of the child or young person in their care. Remember that kids have the right to their own beliefs and way of life, and to be treated with respect. If you feel that you are struggling to support the child or young person, talk to your caseworker.